Hey everybody, first let me say how grateful I am to finally come to a community where I can speak out on my disorder, as well as the many problems associated with it. I definitely look forward to hearing  some of your stories :) Well, let me tell you MY story. When I was a child I had been diagnosed with AS and for several years I had kind of been ignorant on the problem. I didn't really know what made me so different from most people..until my mother told me around freshman year of high school. Then I was like, "What the heck is Asperger's?" My academic performance definitely improved as I got older. When I was still living out West I managed to go to a community college, and obtained an Assoc. degree in Gen. Studies. I'm currently going back for my criminal justice degree and will graduate this summer yahoooo!

Well, my social life is another question indeed, and there is much on my mind as far as explaining it, so I'll keep it short. As an Aspie, it's really hard to connect with people, and I'm currently going to a church that has things like volunteering opportunities. I realize you can't know every Tom, D***, and Harry, but sometimes I feel like people don't notice me as much. I tend to think from time to time what if I were that guy (a non-aspie)? And for a guy with my disorder I seem to be doing at the very least OK, but like I said still some difficulty (what and what not to say, mistakingly taking offense to things said, etc.) For the past couple of years I've been battling severe depression and mood disorders, part of it's because my father passed away in early 2012 from stage 4 sarcoma. I seem to be coping a little better though now. As far as my love life goes, I've never made it past the first date stage with most girls. I try not to think about it so much, even though most of my peers have better successes than me.

I'm going to a program near my city that helps people with AS. My counselor is helping me with things like better communication skills, and being able to keep a job. It's made a huge difference for me I can tell. 

I look forward to talking with you guys more about this. Have an awesome New Year!

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Comment by Denver NeVaar on January 4, 2014 at 5:43pm

Thank you for everything you shared, Scott.  I think in my case, people often are not sure what to do with me, so they do nothing with me at all, leaving me in a sort of neutral undefined space that is nevertheless isolated from the hub of their activities.  For my part, I try to encourage people to think in terms of a truly integrated paradigm, rather than getting stuck in expecting anyone to fit into others' expectations and fantasies.  I think it is our individuality and our idiosyncrasies which ultimately compose our greatest potential contributions to the world around us. 

Comment by Michael Johnson on January 5, 2014 at 2:33am

First of all I would like to welcome you to the site and you are amongst people who are here to support you. I joined this site last month and I've been getting lots of good feedback on my discussions and blogs. And I am in the same boat as you when it comes to social and love life. I have few friends but they all care and support me when I have my "issues." But all you can do is try to live your life the best way you can and if you have any questions, concerns, or just want to talk, just visit start a discussion and we'll be there.

Good Luck to you and Welcome. 

Comment by Denver NeVaar on January 5, 2014 at 10:08am

In the words of the author and psychologist Scott Peck (who's works include "The Road Less Traveled") within his book "The Different Drum:  Community Making and Peace," pseudo community is oriented around "conflict avoidance" and and true community is oriented around "conflict resolution."  It is my intention to support the GRASP website community in being an example of the latter, in spite of the fact that the larger neurotypical world around us seems most often oriented toward the former (in spite of the long list of additional problems thereby created).  An added layer of challenge for me is that I am also gay, which places me outside of certain other generalized societal responses to relational and social difficulties.  The significant commitment to honesty which my autism at least reinforces (and possibly even causes, by its objection to duplicity) consequently leaves me with almost no community of which to be a part at all.  I persist in my contention, however, that everyone matters and that each individual needs to know that he or she is not only included but also valued by whatever surrounding communities are present.  I look forward to your contributions to this online autism-oriented community; I suspect you are much more of a treasure than anyone has thus far discovered, since that has generally been the case with every other person I've met.  Most of us, however, (myself included) do not see ourselves as being treasures.  Part of our individual healing processes is the discovery of what sort of treasure we each are. 


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